The Psychology of Genius

On the power of genius and the need to develop practical psychological models and solutions to nurture geniuses.

I’ve written a lot about the creative genius already. However the psychological profile of geniuses needs a separate discussion because it is very interesting and the traits or attributes of genius are so unique that they need proper identification and delineation. Genius is marked by high levels of intelligence, an intelligence quotient IQ score above 145, exceptionally high levels of independence and high levels of creativity. Most profound geniuses are very independent in their thinking, highly creative and have very high levels of intelligence. A genius is usually defined by these primary attributes of intelligence, creativity and independence. There are however some distinct attributes that differentiate the genius from the other humans.

Genius and Personality: Geniuses have unique personalities and attributes. They are the rule-breakers, system-busters, world changers, visionaries and pioneers. In societies where the geniuses are recognized and appreciated, they have better opportunities of utilizing their talents. But geniuses in less developed societies or say in conflict zones, may not have the right kind of opportunities and may tend to withdraw and some may become depressed, schizophrenic or develop other types of mental illness. Without the right kind of opportunities and channels, some may become antisocials and criminals. The genius personality is unique and they are usually very withdrawn and quiet or very outgoing and socially smart. Some geniuses may oscillate between being very withdrawn to being very social. Some writers, artists, innovators, creative geniuses may be prolific in their abilities and creative output but may be very quiet or silent in social situations and some may avoid all kinds of social interaction. Geniuses usually have very conspicuous leadership abilities, they will say things you will remember forever and they tend to have forceful and impactful personalities that you can’t miss and can’t ignore. Even the quiet ones will have an impact in their social interactions. Most geniuses, even the very quiet types are also significantly strong-willed, determined and a tad obsessive.

Genius and Power: Geniuses are very powerful and impressive, because they are confident of their abilities. They are sure of their qualities, they know they can influence and have a definite impact on people. They attract people with their brilliance and everyone is attracted to a genius. They are like social magnets. Geniuses are also highly intuitive and perceptive, so they understand people, they predict responses and reactions and are able to see through people’s motives. This keen psychological understanding of people is what makes the genius so powerful. Even the most socially withdrawn geniuses are super psychics and understand people very well. They simply know and understand apparently unexplainable stuff and since they are able predict responses, they know how to deal with people and situations. If a person of average intelligence comes up with five possible scenarios and options, geniuses will come up with 50 different possibilities. This ability to see all angles of a situation, makes them powerful because they can foresee and handle situations better. Geniuses can easily gauge the strengths and weaknesses of people so it’s easier for them to spot talents and understand who they could rely on for specific tasks. Geniuses are also more knowledgeable and as several philosophers have said and Bertrand Russell has reemphasized that, “Knowledge is Power”.

Genius and Sexuality: All geniuses are oversexed. Period. Sex drives and libido or life force is what drives the genius. The sex drive gives them their ambitions and inspire them to do what they want to do and many geniuses achieve extraordinary feats because of their life force or proper channeling of their sex drive. Some like Newton may get scared of the sex drive and try to suppress it and others like Picasso will openly flaunt it, but all geniuses are constantly haunted and tormented by their sexual desires. Geniuses do have an equally potent self-control alongside their explosive sexuality, so the self-control helps them to channel their desires to more constructive and creative pursuits. Some may take the route of denying or rejecting their sexuality as a kind of personal challenge and remain celibate for long periods of time. Research studies have indicated that most people of high intelligence stick to few sexual partners in their lifetimes. Some geniuses may consider themselves spiritually, intellectually or morally superior to have sex with the lesser mortals, so there is a level of pride and high self-esteem involved in the practice of celibacy. Geniuses are also more strongly mentally androgynous, they don’t have typical male or female traits and do not relate to typical gender issues, so there is a level of sexual confusion. Some like van Gogh may engage in several unsuccessful heterosexual or homosexual relationships. Many geniuses become gay, asexual or engage in forms of alternative sexuality. Oscar Wilde, Leonardo da Vinci are geniuses who were possibly more comfortable with their homosexual side of their androgynous personality. Many are bisexual, although some geniuses come to terms with their androgyny and practice socially acceptable forms of sexuality like heterosexual behavior and marry and have families and so on. Yet, deviant sexual behaviors such as celibacy, bisexuality, homosexuality, alternative sexuality are very common among geniuses.

Genius and Creativity: Genius is characterized by insatiable curiosity about everything, followed by the need to gain knowledge in many different spheres. They may be highly technical, may focus on one subject like computer science although many geniuses are interested in multiple subjects, and are multifaceted, multitaskers, and talented or gifted in many areas. They have this magical or supernatural ability to do many things very well. Some may focus on one field and become immensely productive in that specific field. The high level of creativity as seen in genius is usually a product of knowledge, imagination, independence and intelligence. Since genius is motivated by curiosity and have vast knowledge, this knowledge is then used along with imagination to give them unique and great ideas. One ingredient needed for this, is independence of thought. Geniuses are greatly independent in their thinking, they like to think out of the box, they are too proud to rely on other people’s ideas, so thinking independently gives them the necessary kick to boost their egos. They are thought leaders and thinking independently is a requirement to satisfy their creative, sexual or life drives as well. Independence of thinking gives them unparalleled creative abilities, so most geniuses excel in technological innovation, creative fields like writing, theatre or architecture or they may invent new types of music composition or dance methods. Usually geniuses will find an outlet for their creativity and they are usually very productive and prolific.

Genius and Insanity: Geniuses are usually a bit eccentric. They actually enjoy eccentricity, because madness helps them to release some of that high level of creative tension. Moreover geniuses are able to predict responses and foresee events, so they are able to analyze many factors quickly and act in ways that to most people will look a bit ‘crazy’. So there is usually an underlying method in the madness, along with the apparent madness in the method. But they have great insight, so they know they are acting mad and they are significantly courageous to stretch their imagination and actually engage in some temporary insanity, knowing very well that they have complete control over their minds. They are not scared of madness. People of average intelligence are controlled by their thoughts so they may actually become insane. Geniuses and people of very high intelligence actively control their minds so even if they apparently come across as insane, they have a pretty good hold on their thoughts so don’t exactly become mad. Having said that, some geniuses have found themselves battling deep depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and so on. Mental illness can set in among socially maladjusted geniuses. When geniuses are unable to find opportunities for their creativity or there is some sort of suppression of their creative talents, due to personal circumstances, they might lose their minds, become antisocials or completely insane. It is essential that we provide adequate opportunities to children and adults who show very high levels of intelligence. Highly intelligent children must be given additional creative tasks and encouraged to think independently so that they don’t get too frustrated with the lack of appreciation for their abilities.

Psychologists have a good understanding of genius and there are many theoretical models in psychology to explain the phenomenon of genius. Yet there are very few practical models and solutions to actually support, encourage, direct or nurture geniuses. Too many highly intelligent children are driven to insanity by the time they are teenagers and with increasing levels of intelligence among children worldwide, we need more practical or applied psychological solutions and models to understand and nurture geniuses of all ages and cultures.

The Real Importance Of Dreams And Warnings

Many people tell me that they had a terrible nightmare, but when they woke up they were glad because they realized that it was just a dream. These people believe that dreams have no meaning. They believe that their dreams are produced by their imagination. This is why they disregard important warnings that they should respect.

I already showed you that all dreams are very meaningful, even the simplest ones. Thanks to Carl Jung’s discoveries today we know the scientific meaning of the dream images.

All dreams are produced by the unconscious mind discovered by Carl Jung, which is in fact God’s mind as I could discover because I precisely obeyed the guidance I had in my dreams, after recognizing that the unconscious mind was wise and had a saintly nature.

God produces your dreams in order to show you all the dangers that are threatening your conscience and your life. He also shows you how to solve your problems and develop your conscience.

So, you have to respect the importance of your dreams. They are images and scenes that contain precious messages.

After having a nightmare you must become worried and sad. I already showed you the meaning of many nightmares in my articles.

Many people believe that they are morally correct and that they will manage to always be moralistic because they ignore the fact that they have a satanic anti-conscience that is constantly negatively influencing their behavior or controlling their mind and behavior during numerous situations.

Now that we know that we have a terrible anti-conscience we have to stop being naïve, and protect our human side. Even though our satanic anti-conscience is stronger because it occupies the biggest part of our brain, our human conscience can tame the demon when we obey God’s guidance in our dreams.

Therefore, you have to be afraid of your evil self instead of trusting your sense of morality. You can easily fall into many traps and do many things you will regret having done, depending on the situation you are and depending on the stimuli of your environment.

Your mental health depends on your capacity to respect your moral principles when you are tempted to do something absurd and evil that seems to be advantageous for you, but is in fact a trap prepared by your satanic anti-conscience.

You must be afraid of all dangers instead of believing that you can control your behavior and you will never do something you disapprove. Your dreams help you avoid having a sad surprise because they show you dangers that you cannot see.

God doesn’t exaggerate when He shows you in your dreams that you can have the behavior of a prostitute or become a murderer. Unfortunately, you have inherited many absurd and evil tendencies. You cannot always control your behavior as you may believe.

You have to tame your anti-conscience and transform your wild conscience into a positive component of your human conscience. Otherwise, it will transform you into a cruel monster.

This is a difficult mission. God knows that you need His help in order to tame your terrible anti-conscience and become a wise and sensitive human being. This is why He sends you dreams with meaningful messages that reflect your mistakes and all the dangers that are threatening you.

You have to consciously accept to be transformed by God in order to tame your wild conscience.

Your dreams show you that you make numerous mistakes that work against you. You must learn how to always have the perfect behavior of a saint in order to become a true human being and definitively stop making mistakes.

You also have to stop passively accepting the horrors of the world. You have to help God make miracles thanks to your obedience to His guidance.

Your spiritual life is more important than your material life. Your goodness during your life defines your destiny after your death.

Therefore, you have to learn how to cultivate goodness in your heart, after eliminating the poison of hatred, which already is accumulated in your heart from the beginning of your life because you have inherited a satanic anti-conscience that likes terror.

The purification of your spirit is the most important matter of your life. You have to understand the importance of purity thanks to God’s lessons in your religion and in your dreams.

Carl Jung’s method of dream interpretation helped us understand the importance of religion. He managed to accurately translate God’s words in dreams, while he presented the dream producer as the incomprehensible unconscious mind, which seemed to be a strange organ that worked independently of our conscience.

God gives you scientific explanations about your brain in your dreams, which also help you understand the meaning of your religion. What really matters is the purification of your spirit and your transformation into a perfect human being. Everything else is simply part of this mission.

Whenever you have a bad dream or a nightmare you must seriously translate the meaning of your dreams for a certain period of time and follow God’s therapy because Satan is threatening your peace of mind.

Your satanic anti-conscience is terrible. It doesn’t let you find peace and evolve.

It existence is a tragedy because your capacity to think is a tragedy. Thinking is a very dangerous process that must be organized based on goodness in order to work in a positive way. Otherwise, it is a catastrophic process that influences your actions in a negative way. When you have absurd thoughts you also do absurd things that your conscience disapproves.

When you think in a disorganized way you are absurd. You have to organize your thoughts based on logical rules in order to think logically.

You have to learn how to successfully solve all problems based on goodness and wisdom in order to be a mentally healthy human being and think logically, while you purify your spirit. This is what your dreams help you accomplish.

Types of Child Counseling

When a kid is growing up, he is going through a long developmental period. At times, it is hard for kids to deal with the day-to-day stress and bad experiences. One way to help your kid deal with these issues is to seek help from a child counselor. Read on to know more about it.

Does your child need counseling?

How can you find out if your kid really needs counseling? As a matter of fact, it’s hard to determine if your kid is just acting up or he needs help to deal with a serious issue that he may have. So, if you have been trying to get the answer to this question, all you have to do is trust your gut and use the common signs of distress in a kid. Below are a few signs that you should be aware of:

· Your kid doesn’t get enough sleep or his eating behavior has changed

· Your kid acts out aggressively

· He doesn’t get good grades

· He doesn’t show any interest in his studies

· He falls sick more often

So, if you notice these changes in your kid, you should rest assured that you have a bigger problem to deal with. Therefore, you should get in touch with your doctor in order to get advice and recommendations.

What child therapy Should You Go For?

You can benefit from various counseling methods. To choose the right method, all you have to do is determine your kid’s needs. At times, multiple methods are used for the same kid. For kids, you can choose from a variety of therapies. Some of them are listed below:

Talk/Play Therapy:

If your kid finds it hard to talk about a certain subject or trauma, we suggest that you take him to a professional for talk/play therapy. Your kid can make use of different objects, such as toys in order to tell you what they can’t tell you through words. Some kids who were abused benefited from this therapy greatly.

Psychodynamic Psychotherapy:

Actually, this is a behavior-oriented therapy. It is based on some underlying issues that your kid is suffering from. Due to these issues, your kid may be acting out. According to experts, once you have addressed the underlying issues, your kid will start behaving normal once again. If this method doesn’t work, your kid may need another special therapy.

Cognitive Therapy:

This therapy spurs on your kid to make positive changes to his thought process. This will help your kid identify harmful things that make him feel stress. Kids suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD. If your kid shows these symptoms, we suggest that you try out this therapy. As a matter of fact, this is one of the most common therapies as far as child counseling goes.

Aside from this, family counseling is another form of counseling that can help your kid feel normal once again. The fact of the matter is that all of these therapies can treat your kid emotionally as well as psychologically. If your kid also needs help, we suggest that you take him to a good therapist.

Quantum Psychiatry

Mainstream psychiatry is not working. If it was, then people who go to therapists would recover. Bringing up past trauma and rehashing it over and over does not work. The medical system is in the dark ages when it comes to the knowledge of how spirituality and science work. Our bodies are suspended in energy. We are energy and light beings.

If you compressed our matter, you could fit it into a golf ball. Vibrating energy is the basis of how the body and universe work. It’s the science of quantum physics that has been suppressed to keep us in a material world that only brings more suffering.

Bringing up the energy of the past does not heal, it keeps those energies around. We need to increase the vibration of our body. When a person is happy, cells vibrate fast, like being in love.

When a person is sick, there is a low body frequency. Everything is energy. The psychiatric system will not do anything until it reaches the core of the person.

We are energy. That is what the focus should be-energy and vibration! Quantum Mechanics! This is what will bring psychiatry into the new era of healing.

At 52 years, I entered into therapy for the first time. As open as I could be, there was much to be digested. CBT-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy-was the route I chose and the therapist had a background in theology. In the time we spent together, I’ve become more aware and focused on being present for life’s many lessons.

My maladies include anxiety/depression. I swing from one extreme to the other. Panic attacks have sent me to the ER and MDD, Major Depressive Disorder, has plummeted me into suicidal depths. I’m not proud nor ashamed; this was simply the hand I was dealt.

In a twisted move of fate, I have endured life with an angry sister. She decided to post all of my struggles on social media without any consideration to my health. As an inpatient in a psyche ward, I received phone calls and flowers due to her exposure. I was beyond humiliated but will admit that some people were so loving and kind and extended much needed compassion.

Today, with medications and therapy, I face life with hope. It took raising my energy level slowly and allowing me to adapt to the world in a new way. No more escape routes using alcohol or any other unhealthy means of coping. I am truly at peace and wake up with a relative degree of anticipation at what the day might bring

Psychological Power Begins With Mind Control

Watching a young girl of six years old being fitted with a head scarf in the Muslim tradition on a television news item was sickening. Australia is a hot climate country and even in winter the temperature can get rather high in Southern regions while in the north it can go into the thirties. The little girl ripped the scarf off and declared that it was too hot. She also goes to school where no other children are so adorned.

All over the country, however, girls as young as this are forced into these covers. Women of that faith may go even further with some of them wearing berkers. One must wonder, therefore, about the psychological power controlling their minds. What, indeed, is the benefit of any religious costume and the tradition that stands behind them?

Following my reincarnation and with knowledge that all religions are wrong and the gods they worship are fake my observation of them has been a lifetime event. Between lives and with the Spirit of the Universe, the only God, it was shown to me that undoing the brain-washing is a job I would undertake.

It created an urgency to understand as much as possible about what people believe and why? It would not be possible to complete it until the age of 45, in accord with the vision shown. At that age the Spirit commissioned me to remove the wall of churches and bring in the harvest.

Whether this rings true with people or not the facts are that the spiritual children of God will know that it is right. The Spirit has used visions and a special teaching to demonstrate the mysteries and confusion for which religions are responsible.

Institutional power begins with brain-washing of young children, just as with the girl above. While she was too young to have any comprehension about what the veil is for it made no difference to the mother who was inflicting it upon her and who also wore a veil.

Once they have control of the mind leaders manipulate such people into acts that are even against their will, such as being a suicide bomber. The amount of constant enforcement of such an idea that precedes one donning an explosive vest or flying an aeroplane full of people into a building has to be enormous and coming from many sources.

Reinforcing the brain washing are laws and social expectations that are often a major part of one’s upbringing. For instance, boys are reared with a hero motto to follow. They are usually prevented from showing their emotions and if required they may be called into service to give their lives for their country. Muslim boys may be reared to be martyrs.

This is also mind control because of the expectation of the community in which they grow. If they renege on their so-called ‘duty’ they could become outcasts and ridiculed as cowards.

All over there are people dedicated to wearing religious costumes and to following the laws set up by their leaders. Few want to rock the boat by declaring their disdain or that what they are doing is ridiculous and against their principles. So how much of that type of behaviour comes from within or is driven by social and religious pressure?

Wearing clothing outside of the norm suggests the person is expressing something extremely important to them. They are contracting to serve their god to which they have an allegiance. In areas where that being has no following, however, their appearance is often confronting and they can be set upon.

That allows for the mind control to have deep-seated roots and is even stronger than what the community or leaders expect. In my experience the Spirit has control of everyone and leading some to worship false gods and to follow tradition that few understand has to be spiritually driven. That also account for why the drive to express their allegiance in public or to die for it is so strong.

Higher Power, Lower You

Where are you in relation to God or the Higher Power of your understanding? If you are lower than him, it may not be questionable as to why you cannot connect with him or feel his presence.

Only with more than half a decade of recovery in two twelve-step programs and a return to my faith a year and a half ago, was I able to sufficiently dismantle my progressively erected barrier, created by abuse, trauma, suppression, dysfunction, and alcoholic (chemical) toxins during my upbringing, so that I could re-accept and -absorb him. At first, I was only able to open a peephole through which I could look and he could enter, but that has continued to enlarge.

Because you subconsciously consider your parents or primary caregivers perfect, God-like and -representative people whom you neither doubt nor question, it is virtually impossible, at the height of the disease of dysfunction, to conceptualize that the real God is accepting, understanding, merciful, forgiving, and loving, when your earthly parents have punished, judged, condemned, and abused.

You were created in God’s image, but these destructive and detrimental treatments uncreated you, converting and tearing apart your soul until you no longer share that image. How, therefore, can you identify and connect with a Higher Power whom you feel is now the opposite of you?

In fact, he soon bears the image, as viewed through your distorted eyes, of your biological parents, as opposed to the other way around.

How, furthermore, can you trust your eternal parent when he seemed to have turned his back on you during your greatest time of need?

Your plight, created in no small degree by betrayal and abandonment, taught you to seek spiritual refuge within-in the cocooned inner child-and then become self-sufficient, disconnected, and isolated from others, whom you could not entirely trust or rely upon to be there for you when you needed them. Your experience already painfully demonstrated this fact.

As the name implies, a “Higher Power” is higher than or above you, yet the disease of dysfunction unraveled your soul, causing you to disconnect and descend from him, sometimes sinking to an all-time, rock-bottom low. How, then, can you possibly reach him if you cannot even feel him?

However, it is from him that you, as a soul-a life force-came. There are two worlds-the physical and spiritual ones-and it is to the latter that your soul, physically and bodily uncontained, belong, but abuse and alcoholic upbringings ate way at it until you can only identify with what is left-the physical one. It is the ultimate separation from “home.”

My gradual reclimb of the twelve steps has enabled me to re-sow the fray and re-glimpse his presence. I am not, I have begun to realize, just hanging out there alone, like an unanchored boat floating in the middle of a lake.

There is more of me above, although I cannot necessarily see it with my physical eyes, and I have come to understand (perhaps “re-understand” is the more accurate term) that God is that part, origin, and source.

Any sink to the bottom of a person’s pit usually prompts him to seek what he can no longer find within himself-within his drained, dissolved, and dried out soul-the rest of him above, prompting him to surrender and allow God to restore and replenish him-a second, dip, if you will, into the well.

He is present. He just is. I could not find him when I was not. He has been equated to oxygen: you cannot see it, but you cannot live without it.

Gradual recovery repairs the severed ties and enables you to progressively retrust yourself, others, and the Higher Power of your understanding, which, in retrospect, you realize are one in the same.

In short, God is beingness and love, but when you are converted by dysfunction, disbelief, and sin, you lose yours and hence no longer feel the commonality of creation.

The Right Psychotherapy For Every Case

When you think about everything you have to do to transform your personality and triumph over life’s challenges you don’t feel you can become a hero.

Everything seems to be too difficult and tiring.

However, you can build the courage you need thanks to the information contained in your dreams.

Your dreams help you have a global image of your reality and an internal image of your psychological system. So, you stop thinking based on erroneous concepts and you acquire the right mindset.

You are ignorant, even if the knowledge you have seems to be impressing in your historical time. The knowledge you have is distorted by numerous factors in the cruel world ruled by greedy marketers, who are completely controlled by their satanic anti-conscience.

God sends you special information in your dreams to help you understand important truths.

The scientific method of dream interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by me helps you understand God’s words without distortions.

The fact that Carl Jung’s method of dream interpretation helped me discover that God is the dream producer, and then discover the satanic origin of the human conscience proves to the world that the scientific translations really transcribe God’s messages in dreams.

Otherwise, I would never be able to discover anything.

I had no intention to continue Carl Jung’s research, but I was able to do so, besides my ignorance, because I precisely obeyed the guidance I had in my dreams.

The truth is that I was prepared to follow these steps because God needed someone in order to show to the human race that we are in fact cruel demons. We are not really human.

This tragedy explains the existence of many other tragedies, but the obedience to God’s guidance in dreams helps everyone eliminate their satanic anti-conscience and learn how to attain sanctity.

The fact that now we know how really absurd and evil we are means that we can understand why we must obey God’s guidance.

We have to be corrected and attain sanctity. Sanctity is sound mental health and wisdom.

Ignorant human beings believe that we don’t need to be saints in order to be mentally healthy, but the truth is that only saints are mentally healthy. Our opinion is based on ignorance and rudimentary thoughts.

God’s method is painful and tiring because there is no other way, but this method works and corrects our behavior once and for all.

We cannot stop being demons without suffering, but once we accept suffering in order to become perfect human beings, we stop suffering because of the consequences of our mistakes and we stop having mental health problems.

When we manage to eliminate our anti-conscience we can develop our conscience and attain higher consciousness.

God’s psychotherapy in dreams is similar to His psychotherapy in our religion. His method is not like the cold and narrow-minded human treatments.

God tries to help us become more sensitive.

The creative dream images give to all dreamers a clear description of their own behavior. They also analyze the thoughts that determine the dreamers’ actions.

The fact that God sends us dreams with important messages about our mind and our life while we sleep proves that His psychotherapy in dreams accomplishes many goals at the same time.

Thanks to Carl Jung’s discoveries today we know the meaning of the dream symbols and the dream logic, and we are able to understand the importance of every dream for the dreamer.

The scientific method of dream interpretation puts an end to all misconceptions about the meaning of dreams, proving to the world that God and Satan are alive.

The fight between good and evil characterizes our existence.

Now we know that everyone must attain sanctity in order to stop being absurd and evil.

Science and religion are not opposite disciplines. Everything is related in our reality, but we ignore many details about our reality, and this is why we cannot see how everything is related and why.

To Pray Is to Be

Which language do you speak? Prayer is the one that God or a Higher Power of your understanding does and to which he most responds. It fosters the ultimate and uninterrupted soul-to-soul link with him, the direct connection to creator, force and source of created. It nurtures your relationship with him and repaves the invisible path you followed when you descended into physical form.

It may not be habitual. Sadly, it may require desperation-the last effort and attempt to manifest what you desire and need, the final pull from the depths of quicksand into which you have sunk. I know I am guilty of this.

It requires isolation of your soul and a reduction in reactivity so that you can reach and commune with God in a minimally mentally static manner.

It may require the laying aside of your free will, turning it over to God and allowing him to direct through his. They may not necessarily be the same.

It requires faith, because you live in a visible, finite world and he is the invisible, infinite one.

Prayer necessitates realization and acceptance of your limitations. Not being able to see beyond them is a limitation in and of itself. Not believing that God can circumvent any obstacle is both a limitation and the subconscious doubt that he is the creator of all and everything. Not believing that God can reach and work through others may reflect the fact that he has, at times, not been able to reach and work through you.

“My vision can be so limited,” according to the Al-Anon text, Courage to Change (Al-Anon Family Ground Headquarters, Inc., 1992, p. 48). “I often think the only possible outcomes are those that I can imagine. Fortunately, my Higher Power is not restricted by such logic…

“But faith takes practice. Fears can loom large (and) I can get lost in my limited thinking. When I can’t see any way out and I doubt that even a Higher Power can help me, that’s when I most need to pray. When I do, my actions demonstrate my willingness to be helped. And time after time, the help I need is given to me.”

Prayer originates from the soul and love, not the mind and intellect. It requires patience, trust, and perhaps even chance, since God’s plan for your life may not necessarily be your own.

His delay or denial may require your acceptance without foresight or understanding. After all, he knows what lies down the road. You do not.

“I keep in mind whatever is bothering me when I say the Serenity Prayer,” continues Courage to Change (Ibid, p. 352). “What is it that I need to accept or change? I pray for the wisdom to know the difference and the serenity and courage to follow through with what I learn.”

With prayer, you transcend the physical plane and brush the fringes of the eternal one from which you came.

God is everywhere, because there is no “where” in his essence, nor dimension or time. The two most powerful words in the English language may be “I am,” which express existence in and of itself, which you and God are.

To pray, in the end, is to be.

Article Sources

“Courage to Change.” Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., 1992.

The Adult Child Inability to Ask for Help

Ask an adult child who endured dysfunction, alcoholism, or abuse during his upbringing what the idea of “asking for help” evokes, and he may respond “hesitation,” “restriction,” “trauma,” “confrontation,” and “distrust.” But why?

Reasoning, I realized, is in the wiring-of the brain, that is-and my own was soldered during my upbringing-in other words, the wiring contained the ‘why,” or, in my case, the why not when it came to asking others for this help.

How, it is certainly fair to wonder, can you expect help from others-and especially strangers-when your own parents were not there for you? Parental “help” may have been more synonymous with abandonment.

My father was a para-alcoholic, who was exposed to the same erratic, unpredictable behavior he subjected me to, yet neither knew that he was an abused child nor that there was anything wrong with the treatment he received. And my mother, while caring and loving, grew up with a father who himself suffered from an explosive personality that could only be quelled with a quick gambling fix (translated as a full-blown addiction) and she was just as powerless-not to mention frightened-when the insanity played out in my home environment.

Based upon this ostensible normalcy, how and why, I often wondered, would those who did not know me from Adam endeavor to “help” me or even acknowledge my existence? This was what I knew. It was never questioned or corrected, and certainly seemed to configure my brain’s circuitry at a pre-school age, perpetually preparing me for rejection and trepidation.

Subconsciously transported back to my original parental betrayal and the trauma it created, help equaled harm, causing me to feel exposed, even in present time, to a person who may have treated me in a similar manner. Who, I can only ask, would want more of this?

The sheer thought re-erects that impenetrable wall that separated me from my father and, ultimately, others-the one that rumbled, “Step over this line and you’ll be sorry that you did!”

Placing the potential help on one side of a seesaw and the potential hurt its asking could yield on the other, I often assessed the lesser of the two evils, even if that risk were nothing more than irrational in nature, whose seed was planted in childhood. As I continue to pursue my recovery path, I have begun to realize, of course, that it was.

Desperate times lead to desperate measures, it has often been said, and I usually had to fall into the former category before I even contemplated the latter of asking for help. I can only imagine the perplexity of a person who is the product of a safe, nurturing childhood when he tries to understand how seeking a helping hand from another could be considered a “desperate measure,’ much less a dangerous one. The person, I am sure, would not blink an eye at asking, “Could you help me with… ”

Then again, that person never had the need to cross his brain’s wires the way I did and then experience and expect the opposite of what would have been considered normal, reasonable, and rational. There were times when my father went ballistic at the sheer thought of aiding his “enemy.” I thought I was his son…
Exposure to any later-in-life authority figure was an instantaneous lighting, like a switchboard, of those circuits, followed by the emotional drop into the pit known as ‘victimhood.’ If being victimized and perhaps harmed could be equated with “help,” then I would rather do without it, thank you.

Indeed, there were times when my father seemed intolerant of my sheer presence and asking him for things was sometimes nothing more than a race between the rational request and the rise of his defensive wall, leaving me unable to reach him. (I later suspected that he was the recipient of the same rejected treatment when he dared the same interaction with his father.) It was hardly worth the successful delivery (of whatever I needed) if I had to fear another retriggered explosion to achieve it. This was certainly one of the circumstances which had me think twice-if not ten times-about ‘bothering” others for this aid, even as an adult.

It also did not breed any sense of self-esteem or worth, implying that I was just not good enough to even give the time, attention, or help to.

Adult children negotiate life, hiding their deep-dark secrets about the deep hole in their souls and the flaws they believe reflect their intrinsically faulty endowment. They are unaware that this rift was progressively created by parents who suffered from the same deficiencies and projected them on to them. Asking for help, to an adult child, is thus the equivalent of advertising it, a scream, if you will, of “Hey, world, look at how unworthy and inferior I am! I need your help because I can’t do it myself!”

“I was intimidated by step five, because it meant revealing my darkest secrets to another person,’ according to “Courage to Change,” the Al-Anon text (Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., 1992, p. 127). “Afraid that I would be rejected for being less than perfect, I put so much energy into hiding the truth that, although no one rejected me, I was as isolated and lonely as if they had.”

The adult child syndrome forces a person, without choice, into a state of isolated self-sufficiency, which serves as an outward expression of distrust in others, an inability to have relied on them when he needed them, and the ultimate attempt to create an environment of safety, security, and stability. Ironically, the more he believes that he is inadequate and incapable, the more he must dig within himself to find the “Jack of all trades” resources to individually achieve what he needs, transforming him from incapable (in belief) to autonomous (in ability).

Trust is a must, but requiring help returns him to a state of helplessness, when the very parents who should have aided him were the very ones who caused his plight and may have become the ones from whom he most needed protection.

“One effect of alcoholism is that many of us are reluctant to get close to people,’ according to ‘Courage to Change” (ibid, p. 363). “We have learned that it is not safe to trust, to reveal too much, to care deeply. Yet we often wish we could experience closer, more loving relationships.”

It may require a significant amount of recovery, during which a person’s childhood-bred fears, traumas, misbeliefs, and distortions eventually dissolve and enable him to view others in a non-authority figure, parent-emulating light who care and are concerned, so that he can see their good-intentioned actions of help for what they are and not the potentially detrimental offer his rewired brain tries to otherwise convince him of.

The ultimate help may come from his creator or the Higher Power of his understanding. But turning to him may be the most difficult act.

A disconnection and fall from him may, first and foremost, have been the initial subconscious step toward his disbelief. Leaving him vulnerable and powerless to shaming and damaging parents without intervention certainly did nothing to instill his confidence in an entity who could have protected him from danger and aided him during his greatest time of need. And finally, whatever he associates his earthly parents with he eventually attaches to his eternal one, assigning the same condemning and punishing qualities to him, until he can no longer see through this distorted filter.

Once again, it requires a considerable amount of recovery, during which his distortions are dissolved and he rises to a level of wholeness, before he can re-embrace God and regain enough faith and trust to ask him for the help he needs.

“I have an important part to play in my relationship with my Higher Power,” according to “Courage to Change” (ibid, p. 48). “I have to be willing to receive help, and I have to ask for it. If I develop the habit of turning to my Higher Power for help with small, everyday matters, I’ll know what to do when faced with more difficult challenges.”

Article Sources:

“Courage to Change.” Virginia Beach, Virginia: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., 1992.

Impact Of Psychological Capital On Job Performance

Psychological capital is a very trait of the human capital. It refers to a person’s self-efficacy, hope, optimism, and resiliency. In other words, the positive psychological strengths and capacities of an individual enable him/her to function productively. In the past, people tend to focus on the negative side of the human behavior like failure, burnout and helplessness. But nowadays, there is a shift of focus; from the weakness of a person to his/her strengths.

Hope is one of the psychological capital which is a positive motivational state of an individual to become successful or a strong desire to meet his/her goals. It means that a person has the will to accomplish or achieve an intended output or result. Apparently, hope constitutes the gut to succeed and the competence to identify, clarify, and pursue the ladder to success despite the risks encountered in the process. It also indicates desirable work attitudes.

Then, the resiliency of a person enables him/her to have a positive coping mechanism and adaptation in the face of significant risk or adversity. At the workplace, resilience is the positive psychological capacity to rebound or bounce back from adversity, uncertainty, conflict, failure, or even positive change, progress and increased responsibility. It is how a person can face negative events in life without breaking. In fact, a person becomes more resilient when he/she can effectively rise back from a previous setback. Resilient people usually succeed after a series of many failures without giving up.

On the other hand, optimism is the ability of an individual to make internal, stable, and global attributions regarding positive events such as a task accomplishment and those who attribute external, unstable, and specific reasons for negative events like a failure to meet a deadline. It is associated with a positive outcome of events including positive emotions and motivation. In short, optimistic people are realistic because it involves of what he/she can and cannot accomplish in a particular situation and hence adds to one’s efficacy and hope. In other words, realistic optimism is very dynamic and changeable and is considered state-like. In fact, human accomplishments and positive well-being require an optimistic sense of personal adequacy to defeat the numerous roadblocks to success.

Although hope and optimism are synonymous in nature but the optimism of a person comes in whenever an outcome is perceived as having substantial value. When directly applied to the workplace, it was found out to have a positive significant relationship with job performance and job satisfaction.

Finally, in terms of self-efficacy, it represents a positive belief and refers to the employee’s confidence about his or her abilities to mobilize the motivation, cognitive resources or courses of action needed to successfully execute a specific task within a given context. Again, self-efficacy was found to have a strong positive relationship with work-related performance though not an acquired trait. It is inherent in a person but can be developed over time.

Therefore, self-efficacy, hope, optimism, and resilience are important facets of human psychological capital. The combined motivational effects is broader and more effective than any one of the constructs individually. Each of these facets has a unique and common cognitive and motivational processes that enable excellent job performance.

Employee’s excellent job performance and satisfaction is not only due to the salary and fringe benefits they received from a company or an organization but mainly because they possess positive psychological capacity which is considered as a strong predictor of job success.